Breaking Free: Overcoming Guilt After a Miscarriage

Photo by Kristina Paukshtite. Article written by Dr. Michelle Strydom MD

Before reading through this section on miscarriages, you need to first read through the chapter on page 153 which has essential background knowledge that you need on genetically inherited diseases.

A miscarriage is often a very messy and painful experience from both a physical and emotional standpoint. The devil is often right there hammering the woman over the head with guilt, condemnation, shame and an overwhelming sense of failure. After reading through this section you may realize that you didn’t do things the way they were supposed to have been done but you need to release yourself from that in Jesus’ Name. You need to release yourself from any guilt and shame surrounding previous miscarriages because when Jesus died on the cross He took your guilt and shame. Romans 8 v 1 says that there is now no condemnation for those in Christ, who live according to the spirit and not according to the flesh. I ask you to please forgive yourself, if you are holding yourself guilty for any reason. If you had a bad experience with doctors where there were wrong decisions, negligence or malpractice involved, it is very important for your sake that you forgive them. You may even have to forgive God because you feel that He is to blame for what happened or that He let you down. I explain more about forgiveness in the chapter on page 481.

If you have had a miscarriage, do not allow the devil to use this information as an accusation to bring you under condemnation

Before you read this section on miscarriages, I must emphasize right at the start that if you have had a miscarriage, please do not allow the devil to use this information as an accusation to bring you under judgment and condemnation. Furthermore, if you get into offense, it will blind you to the truth in the principles that I want to share. The problem is that as Hosea 4 v 6 says, we perish for lack of knowledge. Therefore I have to teach these principles. I can’t avoid telling you the truth because it may upset you. The information in this chapter is intended to reveal the plans and strategies of the enemy so that he can no longer rob you through your ignorance. This knowledge when applied can prevent further miscarriages in your life and in future generations of your family tree.

If you lost a child through a miscarriage, I do believe that the devil robbed you, but that doesn’t mean that God is not able to heal and restore you in a way that He wants to. If you still have deep, festering wounds in the depths of your soul concerning a previous miscarriage, I recommend that you deal with it through ministry. You need a pastor or somebody who is walking close with God to pray over you. You may need deliverance from the spirit of death, the spirit of guilt, an accusing spirit and/or ungodly grief. You need to break the power of it in the Name of Jesus so that is no longer affects your mind and body. There is a grief that is a God ordained way of dealing with loss but there is also an ungodly grief that is like the superglue of hell that binds you to the past and prevents you from moving forward into the future and taking hold of all God has for you

Paul said in Philippians 3 v 13 – 14: “One thing I do [it is my one aspiration]: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the [supreme and heavenly] prize to which God in Christ Jesus is calling us upward.”

In the first trimester (i.e. the first 12 to 14 weeks of pregnancy) the most common cause for a miscarriage is chromosome abnormalities and genetic defects. Not all male sperm and female eggs are pure because of the flow of iniquities in the family tree that cause genetic defects. And there is no guarantee that every human, Christian or otherwise is going to figure out all their sins and iniquities to prevent a bad conception. When there is an abnormality in the genetics that prevents the fetus from being able to develop further, the pregnancy becomes non-viable.

When the body realizes that a pregnancy is no longer viable, it expels the fetus in the form of a miscarriage. A miscarriage is God’s way of protecting the woman. If that fetus which is no longer viable dies in the womb and stays there, it will rot, become toxic, poison her body and eventually kill the woman. God is bigger than sin and thankfully He designed the body to expel a non viable fetus that should no longer be there. That is of God. However the cause behind the miscarriage is not of God – that is of the devil.

When it comes to miscarriages that occur in the second trimester (i.e. 14 to 28 weeks of pregnancy), latest medical research has found that there is autoimmune activity in the mother that causes the cells of the immune system to attack and damage the umbilical cord. Your immune system is the army of cells in your body that was designed by God to protect you from harmful viruses, bacteria, parasites, fungus, toxins and cancer cells. When the cells of your immune system see these harmful substances floating around in your blood stream and body tissues, they go and kill or remove them, thus helping to protect you from getting sick and keep you healthy. However, whatever goes on in your thought life, your brain converts into a physical reaction. When you attack yourself spiritually through thoughts of guilt, condemnation, self-hatred, self-rejection, self bitterness and/or a low self-esteem, the immune system is redirected to attack your own body tissues, while ignoring the true enemy which is viruses, bacteria, cancer cells etc. When you are attacking yourself spiritually in your thoughts, a spirit of infirmity comes and it alters the biogenetic character of the cells of the immune system so that they take on an assignment of the devil and go on a mission of destruction. Thus the immune system, which was originally designed by God for your good (protection against infections, cancer etc) begins to cause disease in your body (I explained autoimmune diseases in more detail on page 200).

Blaming yourself and holding yourself guilty about miscarriages in the past can cause more miscarriages in the future.

In this case, the cells of the immune system decide that the umbilical cord is the true enemy and they begin to attack it, causing inflammation and swelling. Within the umbilical cord are blood vessels that transport oxygen and nutrients that the baby needs to grow and stay alive. When there is swelling in the umbilical cord as a result of autoimmune damage, the pressure from the swelling blocks off the blood vessels. As a result no oxygen and nutrients gets to the baby, and this leads to the baby’s death. Once again, when the body realizes that this pregnancy is no longer viable because the fetus is dead, a miscarriage ensues. God is the One Who made the body expel the dead fetus to protect the woman, as I explained previously. However what made the fetus die is not of God – it was the damage done by the immune system that became defective as a result of guilt upstream in the person’s thought life. Whenever you see the immune system not functioning as God designed it to, and attacking and destroying its own body tissue, it has been found that without exception there is varying degrees of self-hatred, self-rejection, self disapproval, a low self-esteem, guilt and/or condemnation in the person’s thought life. The person is in conflict with themselves spiritually and psychologically.

Further second trimester miscarriages can be prevented by dealing with guilt and condemnation. Blaming yourself and holding yourself guilty about miscarriages in the past can cause more miscarriages in the future. they have been able to stop miscarriages in ministry – when women have had symptoms of miscarriages such as spotting – because of ministry and application of this knowledge, they were able to stop the spotting.

There are several case reports of women who were able to have a baby after years of multiple miscarriages through dealing with the roots behind it. One woman had miscarried every year for 14 years, and this included two sets of twins. She had had multiple medical illnesses including Systemic Lupus Erythematosus (which is also an autoimmune disease) and a severe allergic condition called multiple chemical sensitivity and environmental illness. God healed her of all her diseases and they just assumed that she would fall pregnant. However she continued to miscarry again and again. Do you think she was struggling with her identity after losing so many babies? Definitely. Henry Wright who ministered to her, asked her “You lost children for 14 years. Do you blame yourself for that and do you have guilt concerning losing that many children?” The minute he said that, she just began to weep because he had just identified her enemy. Henry and his wife ministered to her and removed the accusing spirit and the spirit of guilt. After that she conceived very quickly and today they have a son and she never miscarried again. She never miscarried again after 14 years!

There are also other causes of miscarriages. For example:

  • • Sexually transmitted diseases such as syphilis – I have written more about sexually transmitted diseases on page 253.
  • Bacteria called Chlamydia and mycoplasma – this could also be a result of sex outside of marriage or as a result of a compromised immune system due to fear, anxiety and stress. I explained the physical and spiritual dynamics behind bacterial and parasitic infections on page 249.
  • Viral infections such as cytomegalovirus – viruses are discussed in the chapter on page 453.
  • Protozoa such as toxoplasma – see the chapter on infections on page 249.
  • The mother may have a congenital abnormality in her uterus that makes it impossible for the uterus to support a pregnancy. This can be diagnosed by a doctor who performs an ultrasound which enables the uterus to be visualized. For example a woman may have a uterine septum that mainly consists of scar tissue. When the fetus is developing, the placenta will not be able to grow on this scar tissue. As a result the fetus will not get an adequate blood supply of oxygen and nutrients. Thus the fetus will die and be expelled in a miscarriage. This is a genetic defect due to inherited iniquity. I explained how to deal with genetically inherited defects in the chapter on page 153. In the case of a physical abnormality in the uterus, you can operate in the gift of miracles where you, in faith, ask God to work a creative miracle and restore your uterus to how God originally created it before the foundation of the world. I have explained more about the gift of miracles on page 123 under the heading “Sometimes You Can’t Do It Alone”.

Understandably women who have had miscarriages may be struggling with a sense of inadequacy in themselves and in their identity. However your identity and sense of self worth does not come from having children, it should come from who you are in Christ. Therefore I recommend that you read through the chapter on page 498 which has an extensive teaching about building a healthy self-esteem based on who you are in Christ and seeing yourself as God sees you.

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